A good friend of mine recently got engaged…and by recently, I mean 3 days ago…
I saw the official Facebook announcement go up last night and this morning it’s seeing a lot of action! I was scrolling through the comments and well wishes, of which there are many, relishing in her time of joy. In today’s age this is the literal way to metaphorically “shout it from the rooftop” that you found your guy, The One, your soul mate, the love of your life…yay!
While I was perusing through some of the remarks on her wall, I became baffled…and maybe just a teensy bit perturbed…that so many people are asking the same question: “When’s the wedding?” Now call me crazy, but who was the last person to plan a wedding in 48 hours???
Getting engaged is a euphoric moment. I believe it is the time in each person’s life when they are the most hopeful…it is the promise of a happy future together, a solid foundation for a family, companionship and love. There will be no other time in your life like this one, so stop…just stop…and soak it in.
I know that planning a wedding is fun…but don’t skip this step because you’re ready for the next one. Plant both your feet solidly in this moment and just be engaged! I don’t care how long you dated…dating is different than being engaged and being engaged is different than being married.
Take a week at minimum…refuse the urge to buy 10 wedding magazines and spend hours on Pinterest…go out and show off your sparkler! When people ask “When is the big day?” just smile and say that you’re both enjoying some time being engaged first…
Being engaged is also…just really fun.
Here are some of my favorite tips and pieces of advice I’ve collected from brides along the way…
Tell your family and friends first. Be respectful and call or tell your loved ones in person before posting the news on social media. Let the news spread word of mouth before you tweet it.
Get your nails done. Everyone will be asking to see your ring, so make sure your hands are presentable…that chipping green polish…has to go.
Don’t waste the money on magazines. If you absolutely must, go grab one or two…but don’t buy more than 3…there is nothing in those pages you can’t find for free on-line!
Budget! I think this is the most important, and too often missed, step of the planning process. For tips on budgeting read http://wp.me/p3Z8Gm-3H.
Estimate your guest list. You should know roughly what number you are planning for as soon as possible. One of the first questions a vendor will ask is the guest count. Once you have a number you can research venues to accommodate your wedding.
Pick a venue THEN choose a date. Lots of brides pick the date first just because it is simple…It is much easier to find a venue you LOVE and choose a date they have open in the month or season you want…rather than finding a venue that has your specific date available. (This is especially true if you’re planning a wedding in under 8 months.)
Find your dress. Yes, the dress comes after the budget, after the venue and after the date…I am shocked at how often the dress is the very first thing a bride shops for.
Ask the groom for his input. I DO NOT care if your guy says… “just tell me when and where to be”. This day is as much for him as it is for you. Ask his opinion…allow him to lead the charge on what the groomsmen will wear the food and the cake!
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It is easy to become stressed out…you may find the bridesmaids dress you envisioned looks awful on every girl in your bridal party…the guest list will go up and down at least a few times… and changes will happen.
Don’t lose sight of “Happily Ever After”. The saying refers to the time beyond the wedding…You are planning the happiest day of your life, I know. More importantly – you are preparing yourself for marriage…do not become so consumed in planning for the wedding that you forget to continue to nourish your relationship.
I would love to hear your engagement tips! What would you do differently in the weeks and months before your wedding? Comment below!